Saturday, April 19, 2008

TGIF....!!!


HATE IT...

...when someone questions my ability to do a work...

...when the genuine reasons I give are termed as excuses...

...when I am being taken for granted...

...when the rest are outside having fun while am sitting on my ass working away...

...when ppl make fun of something that I have been working hard on...

...when something that I want so badly does not happen...

...when ppl say that I do not have the passion or the aggressiveness for work... (I'd rather be assertive than aggressive!!)

...when whatever I have been working on so hard fails to meet the approval of my seniors...

...when I have a BAD DAY at work...

The only good thing that came out of it being... Thank God It's Friday..!! :-)

Thursday, April 17, 2008

"Chukku Kaapi to Cappuccino" - A Nice Read!!

Came across this blog when someone forwarded it to me..!! :-)
A very nice piece of writing and one that many of us can identify with at anytime…! :-)
Read thru’ it… Reminiscence… Take a trip down memory lane and let the nostalgia engulf you!!!

This blog was written because I was left with no work to do after coming back from Café Coffee day today. I always feel that blogs are written by people who have nothing else to do, but write blogs. And blogs are written for people who have nothing else to do, but read blogs. So if you have nothing else to do, continue reading.
Café Coffee Days in my life!!! I can’t believe it. Six, seven years back I would never have imagined that such a day would occur in my life. Café Coffee day is supposed to be a place where high class people who didn’t know how to spend the money they had, go. But now I am there… I have changed a lot since my school days.
As I said in my previous post, I never talked in English till the end of my 12th standard. May be in my primary school we talked in English a little bit... (Since girls were there in my primary school we used to talk in English… Mostly it was the “You go girl.” “Miss this boy no… he is stealing my pencil miss” and “Miss this boy is pinching me miss” type of pathetic English.). Till I went to college, I never read an English newspaper. I never knew who Sidney Sheldon was. I never saw English movies. “Star movies” was considered adult material at home. I never talked to a girl. I don’t feel that I missed anything…But still because I didn’t have such experiences, I had to adjust a lot when I traveled beyond Cornigela, my place.
Born in Cornigela, an ordinary conservative town, even Chennai took a lot of time for me to adjust. My home town was too cool. You could watch movies for 15 Rs. in an AC theatre. You get the best food at lowest prices. You can drink water wherever you want and it doesn’t affect you. Girls never wear T-shirts or Jeans. You can see girls in half-sarees. And there were a lot more things that were cool to me…My first costly experience as far as I can remember was my first Pizza.
In my 12th standard holidays I had my first Pizza. We, a group of 5 friends went to a bakery. It was around 7 p.m at night. We ordered our first Pizza (only one because it costed so much - 20Rs!!!). As the Pizza arrived one of the guys started using his hand to take out a piece. “Ley” ….The others shouted… “asingam pannatheylae. Fork kudupaanga”… We got 5 forks for eating one Pizza. Everybody tried taking out a piece with the fork. Nobody was successful. Stupid forks… As we were trying different methods, two girls came in, and took the table adjacent to ours. They seemed to be from the so called high class families in Cornigela. They ordered a Pizza. We were still trying to eat ours. Their Pizza arrived in their table. Unable to find a solution, we looked at them for one. One of the girls took out a piece with her hand and started eating it. Damn stupids we were!!! But what do we do now?? We can’t go back to the hand-intake method… We are brave!!! Luckily for us the power went off… Forks were put down and everybody started picking a piece with the hand. Our sole aim- finish it off before power comes back!!! Unlucky for us, power came back immediately… We had a piece each in our hands… The girls started laughing… People around us realizing what had happened too joined them…We promised we would never eat Pizzas again. But we all did.
The first change in lifestyle for me occurred in Chennai. Chennai was completely different. Watching a movie for Rs.40 was a onetime life experience for most people in my village. I had to adapt to such things since I had to be a part of the group. Otherwise you feel left out. My habits started changing. For example, you look into the glass before drinking water to check whether it is clean. I went to my first Coffee Pub in Chennai. I remember saying some time back “Loosu paya thaan Coffee publa poi mukkaa manineram wait panni oru black coffeeya 50 Ruba kaasu kuduthu kudippaan” - I did it…
If Chennai was difficult for me, how easy would be an MBA school? I was dumbstruck with the culture… The Hi’s and the fundoo English speaking guys were all a great change, though I had expected it. There is a sense of hollowness when you say a Hi to somebody here. In Cornigela a smile was enough to say what you feel. There is real sense of belonging in a smile. I miss it - a smile without a Hi.
Here is an example to show how my family mindset is different from the mindset here. At the end of the first term when I went home, I showed quite a few photographs to my parents. In one photograph there was a guy who had his arms around a girl’s shoulder. My mother asked me whether they were in love. I said “No”. But even today she doesn’t believe me. She still feels that they are in love!!! If only she comes here...
The mind works mechanically here - after you crack a joke you do what they call high fives!!! When you meet a person you ask something like “What’s up buddy?”- Only God knows how you are supposed to answer for such a question!!! You say “Excuse me” after a sneeze - What big mistake have you made to say that?? When you are ready to sacrifice ethics for grades and see even your closest friend as a competitor in group discussions, how much difference will that Excuse me make? Pretty difficult to adjust!!!
Even Café Coffee Days and costly dinners sometimes hurt. Daily my father takes a bus to reach home from his office because taking an auto would cost him Rs.30. He walks a kilometer daily from the bus stop to my house. When I think of that and the fact that I am spending Rs.50 for a Chocolate Fantasy, I feel uneasy. Definitely it is not a matter of money. The fact is that I somewhere in my heart feel that this is not really who I am…The fact that I have changed a lot hurts… I want to be the same myself, but I am unable to do so.
Started listing down a few things that have changed in my life. The left column is a list of things that were part of my life before I entered college. And the right are those that I came to know/were a part of my after I entered college.
Karuppatti Kaapi(Black coffee) - Espresso (Some americano)
Kothu Parotta - Stuffed Parotta
Thosai - Dosaa
Chukku Kaapi - Cappuccino
Vizhuthugal (can you forget it), Kolangal, Chithi - X files, Yes Minister
Cup ice, Paal ice, Cone ice - Italian delight, Sundae
Varamalar, Ananda Vikatan - Business week, India today
Xray Kann, Palamuga Manna Joe, Maayavi, james Paandu 007 - Archies Tintin and Dilbert
Rajeshkumar, Subha - Sidney Sheldon, Jeffrey Archer
Dinamalar, Dinathanti - The Hindu, Times of India
Lae Makka - Hi Buddy
Kaadhal Kondaen - Love Actually
Muzhaga Bhajji - Sandwich
Ot*** - F****er
Pushpavanam kuppuswamy - Beatles
To get a vehicle from a friend 1) Makka. Vandi Chaavi kudu, veliya poganam (get the key and go) - Now 1)Is your vehicle free? 2) Are yuo going to use it for another hour or so? 3) Can i have it? I have something to do in such and such a place. 4)Ok... Will fill it (get the key and go)
I wish I go back to school and be the same guy I was. I know I can’t. But I want to do it and live the same life all again.
Leo da Mirci once said, “I love what I do because I do only what I love”.
If only following something is as simple as saying something!!!

Gender Diversity ..... Good, Bad or Ugly??

There’s such a lot of hue and cry being made about gender diversity in teams and work places and organizations … I mean... apparently it’s important that there is an equal number of men and women in the team so that there is a balance in the work environment … ASK ME!!!
I am the only girl in my team of 15 people… whew! U think it works to my advantage… well yes and no!!!

Yesterday we’d a team dinner hosted by our super boss for the excellent way our team is working and for us to communicate outside work also in a more friendly atmosphere and settings… hmmm…
I was BORED… dead bored..!! and here BORED would be an understatement … being the only girl is a little unnerving at a dinner setting with 14 other men folk… I mean for heaven’s sake they were all behaving in a way that was unlike them at all… I mean what is it with men and a few drinks and food??!!?!

So in any case my super boss was asking or rather telling me yesterday over the course of dinner that it’d be good for us to have another girl in the team and that I must be feeling all alone with no other female in the team… to be honest it does not matter so much to me… as I said earlier there are advantages as well disadvantages… for one, they all think of me as a kiddo (apart from being the only girl, I am also the youngest!!), and so whatever mischief I do, or whatever I say, they don’t take me seriously… which is a good thing because there have been a lot of instances of me suffering from the ‘foot-in-the-mouth’ disease…. Apart from that, I get preference on anything that we partake of and I am spoilt a lot as well… :-)… moreover, when it comes to work, there is always a willing hand to help me out and brainstorm with me…! :P but of course on the flip side, though am treated like ‘one-of-the-guys’, I am also subjected to a lot of MCP behavior, crude jokes, and a lot of swear words – trust me – my knowledge of swear words in a variety of languages has improved considerably ever since I joined this team… and those once-in-a-while mails that gets forwarded to only guys, and god-forbid if I even get a peek of that… well that sometimes makes me wonder, do they really think I am a kid-who-knows-nothing???

But anyways, thankfully when it comes to hard-core work, the whole Shakespearean concept of ‘Fragility thy name is woman’ does not hold good for my team… so that’s the biggest plus point of the lot.. :-) I have to do my share of the work, come what may and that’s the best thing about this..!! ‘Coz at the end of the day, the work you do is what matters here, fun and jokes apart!! :-)

Anyways, as far as I am concerned, I am thankful for my team and the gender balance or whatever term is used in that regard… I certainly would not want to lose my cherished position of being the only girl in the team… ‘Coz for me, it’s smooth sailing all the way through… work for work, fun for fun and I like it the way it is… ;-)

Calvin & Hobbes, Dilbert...!!

Ever read those series on Calvin & Hobbes and Dilbert.. :-)

They are so funny for words..!! Man, they ROCK!

So subtly sarcastic, hitting the nail right on the head.. :P

Love them...!!!

Monday, April 14, 2008

Exploited.... Unaware....

I had gone for a dinner yesterday with my aunt (dad’s sister) and her husband and some other relatives. One of the topics that revolved around the dinner was the fact of how people are being exploited by the higher-ups in the organization… one of the aunties there related this incident…

She is a teacher in a school out in Ahmedabad and she was one day interviewing candidates for the post of librarian for the school. Now the school I guess is quite well-to-do even though being under some association or group (did not quite listen to that part of conversation..!). But the point is that, there was this lady candidate who applied for the job and her interview was being handled. After the initial round of questioning, she was asked what her expected salary was… the poor lady was in a dilemma and after a few minutes of thought, she hesitatingly replied “Rs.3500/- ??”… Now my aunt and the principal who was along with her were put in a fix… the poor thing was unaware of how much she was even entitled to get… Misreading the expressions on my aunt and the principal’s faces she again haltingly said “I will be ok with it even if the salary is reduced by Rs.1000/- to Rs.2500/-.” This from a lady, my aunt said, who is qualified to be a librarian by all standards and who is entitled to the job as much as anyone else, in fact more so than anyone else… My aunt allayed her fears saying that she was entitled to actually Rs.12000/- as per her grade and qualifications… And the look on the lady’s face was one of pure astonishment apparently because she could not believe that she would be entitled to an amount so high when she was asking for a sum of Rs.3500/-. Again she haltingly asked whether she could get that much for the job.

It’s sad to see deserving people like this being unaware of their rights and getting exploited by the dime-a-dozen people who cheat others out of their jobs and money etc…

Happy Vishu...


May you always have work for your hands to do;
May your pockets hold always a coin or two;
May the sun shine bright on your windowpane;
May the rainbow be certain to follow each rain;
May the hand of a friend always be near you;
And may God fill your heart with gladness to cheer you.
Wishing you all a very happy and prosperous "Vishu".... :-)

Tuesday, April 8, 2008

M.B.A.

Mediocre But Arrogant – M.B.A. – Abhijit Bhaduri.

I just read this book on my way back from Chennai… I had been wanting to read this ever since my friend told me about it… but somehow could never lay my hands on it… it was always out of stock or something or the other … but yesterday when I was in Chennai, I happened to go to Landmark and thankfully they had this book there… No second thoughts! I bought it… and well… Read it in 4 hours flat… If you have done your MBA from any institute chances are that you’ll identify with this word for word…!!! I sure did!!

It felt so good to read the book… it sure did bring back a lot of memories; some good, some bad; some sweet some bitter; some beautiful some ugly…!!! But it did really feel good to read the book…

If you have read Peter Robinson’s Snapshots from Hell; you’ll enjoy this even better…. This is the Indian answer to his book…. This might in the beginning seem a little like Chetan Bhagat's - Five Point Someone... it's after all a college backdrop for the story as well...

There are people, who come to your mind reading about certain characters of the book, there are professors whom you recognize when you come across them in the book, and there are instances that you’ll draw parallel to your own experiences… Maybe every college is host to these multitudes of characters… makes you wonder how people can be so similar …

My advice – Don’t miss out on this one… This is a must-read book for all who have done their MBA.


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